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The partner who lies

  NO RELATIONSHIP can withstand lies. Sometimes the liar does it out of fear. Fear is a great generator of lies. Any lie is a character flaw, but fear makes it even worse. Therefore, to stop lying, the partner must first confront their fears and overcome them. The problem is that many couples do not […]

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9,572 mornings

  TODAY I HEARD A SINGLE LADY say that her favorite movie is “50 First Dates” because Adam Sandler’s character spends the entire movie having to win back Drew Barrymore’s love every time she wakes up. And I felt SORRY for this young lady’s future husband. Believe it or not: romantic movies are a poison […]

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PEACE: impossible without this decision

  WHO WANTS PEACE? The answer is obvious. However, what is not obvious is that peace is not achieved without forgiveness.  Having peace will be impossible, as long as we fail to understand that we need the forgiveness of those whom we hurt and that we need to forgive them when they hurt us. Be […]

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The error file

No one wants to be around someone who seems to keep a detailed list of all your mistakes to bring them up whenever they feel like it. We believe that pointing out our partner’s past mistakes will prevent them from doing it again, but all that really accomplishes instead is to upset the partner and […]

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What if you put yourself in the other person’s shoes?

  LOVE INCLUDES always thinking about how to make your partner’s life better. You strive to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and imagine what he or she is going through. Then ask yourself: “What would I like done to me if I were in this situation?”  If you had worked the whole day […]

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September 7th (Brazil’s Independence Day)

IT IS HARD to change a country where people are more concerned when it goes down to the world soccer ranking than the fact it is second to last in education*. But I keep on believing we can change that; but the change has to start from within, in the mind of Brazilians. We have […]

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The controlling partner

  IF YOU TRY to be your wife’s father or your husband’s mother in order to control their freedom, you will, as a result, have a partner who will behave like a rebellious teenager. This revolt may be passive or aggressive and prove to be quite wrong as well, but the first error came from […]

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Why do we treat badly those who want our well-being?

Something so simple and yet so ignored in many relationships: kindness. The fact you live with someone does not give you the right to be rude, harsh, or/and reckless in the the way of speaking and dealing with that person. On the contrary, because the partner tolerates our flaws the most, we owe them kindness, […]

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When repentance comes in too late

One of the saddest things with the end of a marriage is that the couple only realizes the value of what they had when it’s already too late. It’s only after signing the divorce documents, sharing the goods, the furniture, the custody of the children, the pets, and going to live apart that reality kicks […]

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Freedom in the marriage

A successful marriage incorporates the personal freedom each partner has to enjoy moments and activities they love – but obviously, always being responsible not to do anything that could be unhealthy for the marriage or that disrespects the partner. In an unhealthy marriage, there are restraint, possessiveness and severe insecurity. One partner interprets every activity […]