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Challenge #43

Don’t start before completing Challenge #42.
If you want to join the IntelliMen Project, start from Challenge #1.


Challenge: Show generosity by making three generous gestures this week.

Explanation: Who is more generous men or women? By an overwhelming majority, without a doubt, it’s women. When you see a group of women eating together, they are sharing. Sharing advice, beauty tips, compliments, and basically opening up their hearts to one another. When you see a group of men they’re normally making fun of each other, talking about work, watching or talking about sports, or doing some other humdrum thing. Men rarely share.

One reason for this is their competitive spirit. It’s very important for men to feel like they’re first, the best, the most this or the most that. That’s why men tend to keep what they have to themselves, so they don’t “give up the gold,” and give the competition an edge. Another reason is gold itself: their attachment to money. Men associate money to success. They think the more they have the better. That’s why they think: “Why give money away when I worked so hard for it? If that person wants money, why don’t they just go out and work for it like I do?”

Because of these two main reasons, men tend not to be very generous. They hoard what they have, keep their knowledge a secret, and think they’re being smart.

But it’s not.

It’s smart to give. When you give, you prove that you are bigger than money. That’s what Glen James proved. Glen was living on the street in Boston, USA. On a beautiful September day in 2013, while wandering the streets as he always did, Glen found a backpack with $40 thousand dollars inside. “Finding is not stealing,” right? Not for Glen. He reported to a police station and turned in the backpack with a passport inside. The owner of the backpack was found and the money returned. The story caught the attention of the media around the world. After watch this story on the news, a man in another state, Ethan Whittington, was inspired by Glen’s gesture and started a campaign to raise money on the internet to help Glen get off the street. A month later the campaign had raised $160 thousand dollars. Glen said: “Anyone who wouldn’t have turned in all that money would have HAD to be sick in one way or another. I may look sick, but I am a genius!”

Glen and Ethan are rare men in this world. The majority of us wouldn’t have done what they did if we were in their shoes. But just the same, notice the reward that their actions brought.

Every IntelliMan is (or is learning to be) generous.

Your challenge this week is to complete at least three generous acts, without any personal interest, but the simple desire to do good to others. There are many ways to give, there are many things to give (it’s not always money) and there are many people that need to receive. Things that you can do include: set aside time to play with your son (if you rarely do this), teaching something to a colleague at work, helping a church project through an offering — there are opportunities everywhere. So, give it some thought and use your gifts in the best way possible. Be generous! Give! And don’t be afraid of not having enough. Be happy for those who received.

Notebook: Write down how you felt during this challenge. Was it hard? Why? How did the person on the receiving end react? How can you be more generous from now on?

Official Partner: One of these days, give your partner a present, something that demonstrates your gratitude and friendship.

Deadline: You may begin working on this challenge immediately and complete it before Challenge #44 which you can start a week from now.

Post: After – and only after – you have completed the challenge, post your comments on the IntelliMenWorld Facebook or Twitter page, (not on your own page) and write the following:

IntelliMen Challenge #43 done: I am bigger than money. (Add any comment, perhaps you can talk about your act of generosity and the result.)

Links: (when tweeting, use @intelliMenworld)


Verification Checklist

I completed three acts of generosity this week

I wrote down my reflections in my Notebook
I gave my partner a gift
I posted my comments on Facebook/Twitter



“When I chased after money, I never had enough. When I got my life on purpose and focused on giving of myself and everything that arrived into my life, then I was prosperous.”


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7 Responses to “IntelliMen Challenge #43”

  1. anderson 4 years ago

    I am greater than a money

  2. IntelliMen Challenge #43 done:I am greater than money. This week I gave a friend just a one day bus fare and he was so happy because he needed it so badly.I also donated blood to the NBS and they were so thankful.

  3. ike moeng 4 years ago

    IntelliMen Challenge #43 done: I am greater than money…great challenge God says blessed is the hand that gives than that takes….

  4. Intellimen”43 done:l am greater than of the reason why many people suffer is that no one is willing to help.thats why this challenge is good from the time I became a pastor l knew that I have to help always good when someone who is suffering get some help.each and everyday I always like helping others.

  5. Achille Bernard Mfoumou 4 years ago

    IntelliMen Challenge #43 done: I am greater than money. And indeed this very week, i had a good time first of all helping a colleague about the recovery of a forgotten skype password; then,i did also help a lady guiding her to get out a shopping mall cars’ parking.She was very happy to the extend that several times she kept thanking me; finally,i helped wife cooking our evening meal n was truly fantastic.

  6. IntelliMen Challenge #43 done: I am greater than money. I’m success driven, but I won’t let that stand in the way of me being an IntelliMen who is always willing to learn to be generous. To give is better than not to receive.

  7. Guilherme lucas 3 years ago

    Intellimen challenge #43 done i gave my clothes for someone I lend my car