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Challenge #41

Don’t start before completing Challenge #40.
If you want to join the IntelliMen Project, start from Challenge #1.


Challenge: Offer help to a man who needs it.

Explanation: Consider this challenge an extension of the last, where you asked for help. This time you’re going to invert things: offer help to a friend, family member or colleague in need.

Because of male pride, like we’ve already mentioned, many men put on a brave face when they’re actually dying, bit by bit, at the point of a sword. They suffer quietly, and don’t seek out help. At times you can clearly tell that a guy is suffering, and yet he will still not ask for help. Other times you can’t even tell. Some guys are so good at hiding the problem, that by the time you go to check on him, he’s already dead. It can be as tragic as that.

Look at what King Solomon said about this:

As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.
Proverbs 27:17

In the past men were familiar with the process of sword making. When they heard this proverb, they knew exactly what it was talking about. Making a sword requires the use of iron instruments to sharpen the iron blade. Hammering, heating, filing, rubbing and polishing (thousands of times) were all part of the slow and careful process of transforming a piece of iron into a powerful sword, that was sharp, shining and ready to be used by a warrior.

Men are also formed in this manner. Men who are tested and approved as they mature, later become instruments in the hands of God and are used to mold and improve others. This process can involve rebukes, being confronted, even an aggressive talking-to, all very natural in a man-to-man conversation, and necessary components if we want to mold a raw piece of iron into a powerful sword.

Thanks to various men of God that were used, and continue to be used, I am the IntelliMan I am today. What about you? Could you be an instrument in God’s hands and help someone to improve?

Your challenge this week is to identify a man in your family, circle of friends or colleagues that needs help. I want you to humbly but firmly help this man in the best way you can, for his own good. He may need advice, a rebuke, a warning, or someone to listen to him. He may need encouragement, or he may need for you to reach out your hand and help him out of the hole he’s in (addiction, marriage problem, unemployment, etc.). But before you do anything, understand that throwing money at a problem is rarely the best approach; we need to teach other men to help themselves. Think of the most efficient way you can be of help.

Be careful. Don’t use this as an opportunity to tell somebody off and act superior, etc. If the man you are going to help needs to be rebuked, then do it. But your help should be given with a humble spirit — and of course, the other person will also need to be humble to accept the help. But if your man rejects the help, that’s not your problem. Your obstacle is to overcome the hurdles of embarrassment and the fear of offending.

Notebook: Here are some suggestions to help you identify a man who needs help. Make a list of all the friends, colleagues, and family members that come mind. The more the better. Then, for every name on the list, try to remember the personal battles that each person has gone through and if any one of them ever exhibited signs that he might need help. Put a mark next to the names that might need help, then choose one and complete your challenge.

Official Partner: You might decide to help your partner. If so, go ahead. Also be open to the fact that he may see that you need help in some area. Be humble to listen and learn.

Deadline: You may begin working on this challenge immediately and complete it before Challenge #42 which you should begin in a week.

Post: After – and only after – you have completed the challenge, post your comments on the IntelliMenWorld Facebook or Twitter page, (not on your own page) and write the following:

IntelliMen Challenge #41 done: I was an instrument that was used to help someone. (Add any other additional comments.)


Links: (when tweeting, use @intelliMenworld)



Verification Checklist

I identified someone who needs help
I offered help to that person
I wrote about it in my notebook
My partner and I spoke about the challenge
I posted my comments on Facebook/Twitter




No matter what accomplishments you make, somebody helped you. — Althea Gibson

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8 Responses to “IntelliMen Challenge #41”

  1. IntelliMen Challenge #41 done:I was an instrument used to help someone, I helped another fellow man about how he overcome debts in his financial life. THIS is the same man I busy recruiting to join IntelliMen project.

  2. Intellimen challenge “41 done.I was an instrument used to help soneone.they is an old man in the Church where I am.he lives alone he is 80 years hard for him to take care of his life even washing his I told him to find someone to wash his clothes and he accepted .

  3. ike moeng 4 years ago

    IntelliMen Challenge #41 done: I was an instrument used to help someone. This challenge gave me an opportunity to do God,s work and help shed light….

  4. Achille Bernard Mfoumou 4 years ago

    IntelliMen Challenge #41 done: I was an instrument used to help a brother of mine by advising him how to speak n behave towards the wife so that he may avoid wrangles in his marriage.

  5. Achille Bernard Mfoumou 4 years ago

    IntelliMen Challenge #41 done: I was an instrument used to help a brother of mine.I told him that the words we use to speak to the partner (wife) instead of solving problems in the marriage rather brings wrangles, threats. So better to control ourselves before reacting when a problem occurs between him n wife.

  6. jeremia 4 years ago

    INTELLIMEN Challenge #41 done.i was an instrument used to help my wife. in order for us to have enough time together after work. she used to spend much of her time after work watching TV programs and she would say that i don’t have her time, so i asked her to give herself time for me to have her time,because we both work and after work we go to the church,and not to say that she must not watch the television because i also do watch TV. and she understood and now she is happy.

  7. IntelliMen Challenge #41 done: I was an instrument used to help someone. It was never easy but I must say Challenge 40 helped me to help another brother. And I hope this will continue to help me in the future as well to give help more frequently to help mould more other men.

  8. Guilherme lucas 3 years ago

    IntelliMen Challenge #41 done: I was an instrument used to help someone. This challenge gave me an opportunity to do more to God,s work to help those who want shed light….