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Challenge #25

Don’t start before completing Challenge #24.
If you want to join the IntelliMen Project, start from Challenge #1.


Challenge: Identify immaturity and develop maturity.

Explanation: Paul of Tarsus, a great man in history, said:

When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

1 Corinthians 13:11

One of the biggest complaints women have with regard to men these days is their immaturity… mothers who financially support adult sons, women who are looking for a man their age but only find boys dressed like men (and sometimes not even that), girlfriends who complain that their boyfriends are too emotional, wives who put up with husbands who play video games all night long.

No, they’re not being annoying and overly demanding. A lot of men really do act like children.

Don’t take me the wrong way. Having a touch of childishness once in a while is healthy, otherwise the seriousness of life would give us heart attacks in the prime of life. But just a touch is good, an more is too much. Besides, when I say immaturity, I’m mainly referring to infantile actions, feelings, thoughts, and behavior, things which are inappropriate for any man, or for a young man who’s maturing (or at least should be.)

I know we have men  from 8 to 88 doing this challenge, so it’s obvious that a boy of 12 will not have the maturity of a man of 30, who in turn will not have the maturity of a man of 65. Being mature means being well adjusted for your age and situation, like a ripening fruit. And so, all of us should desire maturity.

There comes a time when a fruit’s ripeness reaches its peak. Before or after this time, it doesn’t have the same taste. This is what an intelligent man should be like – demonstrating the right attitudes at the right time.

An IntelliMan should think, act, speak, feel and behave in a way that’s suitable to his age and position. Note, this is not just about age. A married man of 25 should not behave like a single man of 25. Same age, different situation – means different maturity levels.

So, your challenge this week is to evaluate your level of maturity and identify where you need further development.

  • What kind of attitudes, thoughts, conversations, feelings and behavior, does your age and situation require of you?
  • How well are you fulfilling your responsibilities?
  • Are people around you feeling frustrated? Could it be that their frustration has to do with your immaturity?
  • Are you satisfied with yourself, with the way that you behave in certain situations?
  • What do you think God thinks of your maturity at this time? Do you think He might be trying to help you mature so that He can give you bigger blessings and responsibilities?

Don’t simply zip through these questions. Go over each one and think about the answers.

Notebook: As you’re thinking about the answers, write your thoughts in your notebook. After thinking about all the questions, reach a couple conclusions about where you need to improve your maturity and what “childish things” you need to abandon.

Official Partner: Speak to your partner of what you discovered about yourself in this challenge. Share what you decided to do about your conclusions.

Deadline: You may begin working on this task immediately. Complete it in a week and then go on to Challenge #26.

Post: After – and only after – you have completed the challenge, post your comments on the IntelliMenWorld Facebook or Twitter page, (not on your own page) and write the following:

IntelliMen Challenge #25 done: I am leaving behind childish things. (Comment further if you like.)

Links: (when tweeting, use @intelliMenworld)


Verification Checklist

I reflected on my level of maturity
I wrote down the answers in my Notebook
I spoke to my Partner about the challenge
I posted my comments on Facebook/Twitter



You can only be young once. But you can always be immature. – Dave Barry

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8 Responses to “IntelliMen Challenge #25”

  1. ike moeng 4 years ago

    IntelliMen Challenge 25:i am done with childish things. this is a beneficial task allong the concept of man up and all men need this…

  2. IntelliMen Challenge #25 done: I am living behind childish things and it is for my own benefit and the benefit of the people around me.

  3. intellimen challenge 25″ done l am leaving childish things.well its true that as we grow old they are things that we have to change especial our behavior thats why from now on l am going to fight in order to be a mature man in respect of my age and my responsibility.

  4. Gabby Amoako Brent 4 years ago

    intellimen challenge#25″ done I have left my childish things behind and start act as grown up way. before I use to act in childish way. But now I learned to act as real me. I have been doing it. I will keeping on act as real men.

  5. Intellimen challenge 25# done im leaving behind hildish things and will definetely develop maturity as im still depending on my mother

  6. I use to post immature pictures on facebook. For an example posting with a cap and different style of posing. Laughing out louder than other people. Not sticking to my promises but now I have learned to act as an Intellimen and to be responsible.

  7. Guilherme Lucas 3 years ago

    Intellimen challenge #25 done. Learned to be more mature with criticism and less immature to absolve it.

  8. Andile Luvuno 3 years ago

    IntelliMen challenge #25 done I’ve left my childish behaviour as I’m 18 yrs my age requires me to be at the stage were I’m now making decisions that will change my life so it needs full maturity. And people around me think I’m old as I don’t act like a young boy but like a young man
    Thank you