Jealousy is a sign of injustice
For all those who suffer jealousy in a relationship:
Did you know God is jealous of you?
There are at least two references in the Bible, in both the Old and New Testament*, in respect to what God feels when we do not put him in first place in our lives. When our attention is turned to other things, people or even a religion or false god, God becomes extremely jealousy.
It’s understandable. When you give yourself to a person exclusively, the least you expect is the same in return. So feeling jealous is fair. If not, God wouldn’t feel it.
When a husband or wife feels jealous of their partner, it is because there is probably some kind of injustice going on, basically, the partner has been unfair in some way. For example, he keeps having conversations with women via text messages. She keeps posting pictures of herself on Facebook which bother her husband. He keeps things from her, doesn’t tell her where he is, who he’s with, or even lies to her… She pays more attention to her mother, friends, dog, career… than to him.
In short, when you begin to be unfair to your partner, you are creating a cause for jealousy. The only way to resolve this issue is to do what is right, what you would like your partner to do if the roles were in that situation.
It’s true that in some cases the jealous partner is too extreme, or behaves irrationally. This can be due to various personal problems which generate insecurity and should be treated. But here we are focusing on jealousy caused by a partner. For example, God is not insecure and doesn’t have personal issues or traumas to resolve. The jealousy that He feels for us is exclusively provoked by our injustice toward Him.
If your husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, etc. is jealous of you, perhaps it is time to consider what you did to provoke this.
Be just. That’s what it is to love.
Ezekiel 8:3, James 4:5