Outlasting the setbacks

Part of my work involves helping people to change—to change themselves, their situation, or both. Some want to change their marriage, others their finances, some want to quit an addiction. They want to be a better person, to be able to enjoy their life more, or to successfully deal with a problem. We all need […]


Your problems, one question

Your problems: What you feel about them, what you did or didn’t do that caused them, any injustice behind them, how unfair they are, why that person who should help you with them won’t, why-you-why-now questions — none of that matters. The only thing that matters when it comes to your problems is this: What […]


The big picture

Just in case you’ve lost sight of the big picture. “I don’t think the way you think. The way you work isn’t the way I work,” the Lord says. “For as the sky soars high above earth, so the way I work surpasses the way you work, and the way I think is beyond the […]


Only the great practice this

God is God, Lord, and All-mighty — but He still humbles himself, takes the form of a servant, and asks us, “What do you want me to do for you?” He seeks to meet our needs, even though He is greater than us. Contrary to the way of the world, where the greatest are served […]



Maybe that person is not thinking evil of you. Maybe your friend didn’t greet you in the hallway because her mind was really elsewhere. Maybe your wife/husband is right, after all. Maybe her outfit is tight because she gained some weight, not because she’s a slut or because she wants attention. Maybe he didn’t do […]


Check the health of your relationship

All you need to die is to be alive. All you need to have relationship problems is to be in one. Many couples we counsel find out that they have relationship problems the same way some people discover they have a deadly disease. On a routine visit to the doctor, or when they go just […]


Training ground

Then Saul sent word to Jesse, saying, “Allow David to remain in my service, for I am pleased with him.” 1 Samuel 16.22 Shortly after being anointed by God as the future king, David was providentially summoned to serve in the palace, next to King Saul. Was God preparing young David to sit on the […]


“Nuke” Gingrich

Politics aside, and not judging the character of the man one way or the other, you’ve got to admire the firmness, razor-sharp, and ballsy manner in which Newt Gingrich nuked the CNN journalist in this debate. This must be one of the kings of comebacks in a debate, ever. Lesson: There’s always a way to […]


No stopping them

When a man is determined, what can stop him?  Cripple him and you have a SIR WALTER SCOTT; put him in a prison cell and you have a JOHN BUNYAN; bury him in the snows of Valley Forge and you have a GEORGE WASHINGTON. Have him born in abject poverty and you have a LINCOLN. […]

So He could be by himself

With the crowd dispersed, He climbed the mountain so He could be by himself and pray. He stayed there alone, late into the night. (Matthew 14:23) When was the last time you made time to be alone with God?