She perceives that her merchandise is good, and her lamp does not go out by night. (Proverbs 31:18)
Many people want to have a family of their own, a husband to belong to, a child to raise, and a home to care for… but it’s funny how many of these people will completely forget what they said they wanted the minute they get these things…
“I’m too tired to cook dinner every night. Here, serve yourself with this frozen ready-made meal I got the other day.”
“Who do you think you are telling me what I should or not do? I may be your wife but I have a life too!”
“I can’t wait for my child to go to school and give me a break!”
“I don’t have time to care for this house, my family will just have to accept that fact.”
These and other more shameful comments are made every single day by women who one day wished to have what today is a ‘burden’ for them.
The V-woman appreciates what she has. And the way she shows it is by providing her children, husband, and home with the best. It’s the way she joyfully cooks, cleans, irons, does her groceries, stocks them, organises, decorates, and invests. Such basic housewife’s responsibilities and yet, such important ones. They reveal how much you appreciate your family.
I’ve heard of wives ‘saving money’ on food in order to buy themselves a new dress…husbands having to iron their own shirts in the morning because there was none in the closet for them to wear… children being raised by TV, Internet, and video games to cover for the time they’re home after school. It’s a sad picture.
The worst part is that, if you cannot appreciate those you see, how will you appreciate God?
You can only begin to appreciate something when you understand its meaning and recognize its value. Let’s talk a bit about you. If you cannot appreciate yourself, you will have trouble appreciating those around you. Perhaps this is why you know you should do more for your family, but you can’t; you don’t have anything to give.
This is all due to the way you’ve been seeing things all along. There is at least one thing you hate about yourself. And once you hate something about yourself, you create a chain reaction, hating everything else, because you don’t believe you’re good enough.
You look at your home and become convinced that you’ll never be a good housewife; and instead of wasting your time trying, you prefer to let others think whatever they want. You have to constantly convince yourself that your not the “housewife” type, without noticing that you’re fulfilling your own prophecy.
If you see yourself this way, it’s obvious that others will see you this way too. And as it says in Proverbs 23:7:
For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…
We determine who we are by the way we see ourselves. The V Woman saw that her merchandise was good. And she worked hard for this.
(Excerpt from my book “The V-Woman”, available on Christian Books Plus or your local UCKG HelpCentre.)