I appreciate the fact of having a father in my life. Although he may not have been able to be very present during my childhood as I would’ve liked, he was never far away or indifferent, quite the opposite.
Every time we would fall asleep he would only arrive afterwards, and when we would wake up we knew he had left, we only knew he had been at home because we would see in my mother a fulfilled woman. I think this is one of the main reasons why we always admired our father – he was always a good husband for our mother.
How could you admire a father that would make your mother suffer? A father that made you have a totally negative view about all men on earth? A father that wasn’t able to be faithful to the woman closest to you?
Before being a father, he is the reference his children will have. Is it sufficient to be caring, attentive, and not letting anything lack for them? This has been one of the biggest mistakes of many fathers, thinking they can continue being a father without first being a true man and husband!
I know that many have already made mistakes and have no way to turn back, but at least, treat the mother of your children with respect and dignity – if it’s not for her love, spare your first family from suffering because you weren’t strong enough to remain with her, and for the love you have for yourself, love your current wife.
The importance of being a father is so great that God Himself is called a Father. He wouldn’t call Himself a father if this role wasn’t to His stature!
God the Father is also the Husband of the Church, which means that a father is much more than a simple provider, like many around there believe is the greatest responsibility in the house.
The father is the alpha of the family. He is the one in the frontline, which spares all the others from problems or danger, protecting his family with his own life. He also cares, sacrifices himself, and gives himself for his nest! However, see that for him to fulfill this role, he first has to focus in doing all this for his wife, the mother of his children:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it, that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, and that He might present to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish. In this way men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. (Ephesians 5:25-28)
This means that the husband who loves his wife gives himself for her so she an sanctify herself and become a woman that is glorious, without spots, wrinkles, holy and blameless – a woman that is above her age, her appearance, insecurities, in short, a woman who is truly happy.
This is what my father did for my mother, through her, he became an example of a man, father, and husband for me and my sister.
A happy mother makes her family happy.