“I feel so tired, I have so many responsibilities and demands that I feel without strength to do everything. To be a wife, mother, professional and servant of God has taken up all my time. I’ve tried organizing myself and distributing my activities in a better way. It works for a while but then everything goes back to how it used to be. My job requires a high level of concentration, and I have to give account of all my responsibilities. When I finish work, I run to pick up my kids from school. My routine is that of a common housewife: cook, organize, clean, wash, and buy. Because I’m always in a rush, I can’t do things in the way I would like and I end up feeling like a weak woman.”
Friend, you are part of the majority of women that live in this modern dilemma, in which women carry multiple or quadruple roles. This is different from a man, who has a professional career outside, but when he arrives home, he has no more commitments and can relax.
Someone has spread the idea that us women, can do two, three or four things very well at the same time, and we are failing because of this.
Of course, if your husband could help you, mainly with the children, it would be really good, since when there is this type of responsibility to do, you need the collaboration of everyone in the house. This cannot be imposed though, but developed because of their own conscience.
Like you said, the excessive amount of responsibility has been draining you and become a dissatisfaction that has been bad for you.
People who feel drained and overwhelmed tend to give less, and have a high price to pay: their health. The start working with no pleasure totally fatigued, that even the things that were once pleasureable like cooking for the family and taking care of the children, become a burden.
I suggest that you see all the things you have to do and see what has been draining most of your energy and has become annoying to do.
1. If it’s possible, decrease the amount of hours at work, sometimes it’s better to earn less, but be well on the inside, than to have money to buy things that don’t satisfy you long term.
2. Another thing: what’s your goal in life? To raise your children well? To be an excellent professional? Be an excellent wife? We don’t always achieve everything we want, that’s why we have to establish goals and make time for them. Have in mind your purpose, and eliminate what’s unnecessary.
3. Have some time for yourself, even if it’s a little bit. Take care of plants, walk in the sand, take in some sun, read a good book, paint, speak with friends, etc.
Struggles, responsibilities and demands from others many times leave us with a feeling of exhaustion. It’s very hard for the other person to understand we have a limit, isn’t it?
Because of this, we have to prioritize over everything else, our spiritual life, because when we are well, we find relief and rest in the same dimension.
To finalize, I’d like to talk about an invitation that you cannot decline from the Lord Jesus for those who feel tired and overburdened.
Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me. For I am meek and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. Matthew 11:28-29
It’s so hard to find someone who wants to help us in life, to carry our burden, but this is exactly what the Lord Jesus is offering.
You don’t want to carry all the burden upon your shoulders alone, right?
See you next week!