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Why do we treat badly those who want our well-being?

Something so simple and yet so ignored in many relationships: kindness. The fact you live with someone does not give you the right to be rude, harsh, or/and reckless in the the way of speaking and dealing with that person. On the contrary, because the partner tolerates our flaws the most, we owe them kindness, […]

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Freedom in the marriage

A successful marriage incorporates the personal freedom each partner has to enjoy moments and activities they love – but obviously, always being responsible not to do anything that could be unhealthy for the marriage or that disrespects the partner. In an unhealthy marriage, there are restraint, possessiveness and severe insecurity. One partner interprets every activity […]

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How to confront unacceptable behavior within the marriage

  Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. – Proverbs 27:6 Love is not all about romance. At times, it requires confronting the person we love when they’re wrong. Understand that confronting someone does not mean attacking the person. This is how it should be done: Be […]

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“I want someone who completes me”

MY BETTER HALF, my significant other, my soulmate… Marriage wasn’t designed to complete a person. Marriage was created so that two complete people may form a partnership that will result in something much stronger and beneficial than if they remained alone. In the mathematics of a marriage between two complete people, 1 + 1 can […]

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Do you want to change? Beware of distractions!

  When you decide to make a change in your life, you have to be focused. Take your eyes off your goal and your strength will dwindle. Beware of distractions. Usually, people who say “I can’t do it” suffer because of a lack of focus, rather than a lack of ability.   Also read:   Sign […]

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I’ll find someone better

   When a couple faces a crisis and they can’t overcome it despite many efforts, it’s common for them to think that breaking up is the best option. “I’ve chosen the wrong person,” they say. “But I’ll find someone better.” The truth is that even if they move on to a new relationship, they’ll realise […]

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Tip: whole and resolved

When a person is not emotionally whole and resolved, they run a serious risk when starting a relationship: making their partner their everything. They tend to find their sense of worth and love in their partner. And so, they become suffocating, for their partner is their sole source of love and worth. Anything their partner […]

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Denying love

  I WAS A MANIPULATOR in my own marriage. Whenever Cristiane upset me, I’d deny her any kind of affection. I’d keep silent, I’d avoid eye contact, I wouldn’t touch her, and I’d try living my life as if I didn’t need her. That was the silent treatment. My goal was to make her eat […]

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Emotional blackmail

  Emotional blackmail is the favorite weapon of manipulative people. One of its most common forms found in relationships is trying to make the other person feel guilty in order to induce them to give in to the desires of the manipulator. “If you really loved me…” “How can you be so selfish?” “This is […]

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Love and control

  Love cannot thrive in an environment of control. Few things bring more stress into a relationship than one’s attempts to have control over their partner. Love should be given and shown freely, not by pressure. If it’s done by pressure, then it’s not out of one’s free will; therefore, it’s not love. Only when […]