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“I want someone who completes me”

MY BETTER HALF, my significant other, my soulmate… Marriage wasn’t designed to complete a person. Marriage was created so that two complete people may form a partnership that will result in something much stronger and beneficial than if they remained alone. In the mathematics of a marriage between two complete people, 1 + 1 can […]

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I’ll find someone better

   When a couple faces a crisis and they can’t overcome it despite many efforts, it’s common for them to think that breaking up is the best option. “I’ve chosen the wrong person,” they say. “But I’ll find someone better.” The truth is that even if they move on to a new relationship, they’ll realise […]

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Denying love

  I WAS A MANIPULATOR in my own marriage. Whenever Cristiane upset me, I’d deny her any kind of affection. I’d keep silent, I’d avoid eye contact, I wouldn’t touch her, and I’d try living my life as if I didn’t need her. That was the silent treatment. My goal was to make her eat […]

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Love and control

  Love cannot thrive in an environment of control. Few things bring more stress into a relationship than one’s attempts to have control over their partner. Love should be given and shown freely, not by pressure. If it’s done by pressure, then it’s not out of one’s free will; therefore, it’s not love. Only when […]

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Love and choice

To love is a choice, a decision that does not depend on external pressure. I can’t love someone if I don’t have a choice. To love is to be able to choose any other person I want and yet decide to be with only one; it’s to be free to do whatever I want and […]

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Money is NOT synonymous with a happy marriage

  In the past, men used to think that bringing money home and putting food on the table were enough to make them great husbands. In many cases, the result of that was that their wives felt excluded, diminished and seen only as mothers and housewives. Nowadays, many women, in pursuit of financial independence and […]

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The Feminine vs the Domineering Woman

  True feminine behavior doesn’t mean a wife will always agree with her husband. Sometimes, depending on the situation, it’s necessary to strongly disagree. A woman’s femininity will not disregard her intelligence, rationality and ability to argue valid opinions. In a bulletproof marriage, a STRONG wife is a valuable asset for her husband. She can […]

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The 2nd Rule to Successful Communication

  Pay close attention to the signs you send without saying a word. During a conversation, it’s very common for either partner to fold their arms and say, “Go on, tell me what’s bothering you,” but they’re actually saying, “I’d rather be anywhere else than to have this conversation;” all this can be said without […]

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The 1st Rule to Successful Communication

  Make an effort to listen and understand each other. You’ll never be able to communicate intelligently without first understanding what the other person wants to say. This is harder than it looks. Not everyone expresses themselves clearly, and sometimes our negative feelings give a different connotation to our words. Stop. Listen. Do not interrupt […]

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Love and fashion

  I COME from a place and a time where people used things until they were completely worn out. Everything was expensive, rare and acquired with difficulty. Because of that, things were well taken care of and much valued. Nowadays, people use them only while that FASHION TREND lasts, which is a small fraction of […]