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“I want someone who completes me”

MY BETTER HALF, my significant other, my soulmate… Marriage wasn’t designed to complete a person. Marriage was created so that two complete people may form a partnership that will result in something much stronger and beneficial than if they remained alone. In the mathematics of a marriage between two complete people, 1 + 1 can […]

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I’ll find someone better

   When a couple faces a crisis and they can’t overcome it despite many efforts, it’s common for them to think that breaking up is the best option. “I’ve chosen the wrong person,” they say. “But I’ll find someone better.” The truth is that even if they move on to a new relationship, they’ll realise […]

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Tip: whole and resolved

When a person is not emotionally whole and resolved, they run a serious risk when starting a relationship: making their partner their everything. They tend to find their sense of worth and love in their partner. And so, they become suffocating, for their partner is their sole source of love and worth. Anything their partner […]

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Denying love

  I WAS A MANIPULATOR in my own marriage. Whenever Cristiane upset me, I’d deny her any kind of affection. I’d keep silent, I’d avoid eye contact, I wouldn’t touch her, and I’d try living my life as if I didn’t need her. That was the silent treatment. My goal was to make her eat […]

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Emotional blackmail

  Emotional blackmail is the favorite weapon of manipulative people. One of its most common forms found in relationships is trying to make the other person feel guilty in order to induce them to give in to the desires of the manipulator. “If you really loved me…” “How can you be so selfish?” “This is […]

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Love and control

  Love cannot thrive in an environment of control. Few things bring more stress into a relationship than one’s attempts to have control over their partner. Love should be given and shown freely, not by pressure. If it’s done by pressure, then it’s not out of one’s free will; therefore, it’s not love. Only when […]

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What did I do?

  Every time I gave Cristiane the silent treatment, it was because I didn’t know how to deal with the anger over something she’d done. Something that would’ve really helped me in those moments was Cristiane asking, “What did I do that upset you?” It wouldn’t change how I dealt with anger (something I only resolved […]

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Success in career vs. Success in love

  Nowadays women are prepared to be independent, which is excellent for their careers, but in some cases, FATAL for their relationships. Men are simple to love. All we want is a woman who is pleasant. A woman who takes care of her husband, treats him with respect and is his companion. We don’t resent […]

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Proactive Partner vs. Passive Partner

  With most couples, one is usually the proactive and the other is the passive. A passive partner’s complacency and delay in making decisions/taking action frustrate a proactive one. A passive partner relies on their active partner to take the initiative and often feels frustrated because the other one got ahead of them. The constant […]

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Money is NOT synonymous with a happy marriage

  In the past, men used to think that bringing money home and putting food on the table were enough to make them great husbands. In many cases, the result of that was that their wives felt excluded, diminished and seen only as mothers and housewives. Nowadays, many women, in pursuit of financial independence and […]