I appreciate the fact that my father is in my life. Though he wasn’t able to be as present as I’d like during my childhood, he was never very far or indifferent, quite the opposite.
We would go to sleep and he wouldn’t be home yet; we’d wake up and he would have gone to work already. But, we knew he had been home because we could see how fulfilled our mother was as a woman. I think this is one of the main reasons why we always admired our father – he was always a good husband to our mother.
How could you admire a father that causes your mother to suffer? Or admire a father that leaves a bad impression about all men? Or admire a father that isn’t faithful to the woman closest to you?
Before being a father, he is the reference his children will have. Is it enough to be caring, thoughtful, and not let anything lack for them? This has been one of the biggest mistakes many fathers make, because they think they can continue to be a father without first being a real man and husband!
I know many made mistakes in the past and now there’s no going back, but at least, treat the mother of your children with respect and dignity – if not for the love you have for her, then let it be for the love you have for your children. Pay the child support you owe, spare your first family from suffering because you weren’t strong enough to remain with them, and, for the love you have for yourself, love your current wife.
The importance of being a father is so great that God Himself is called Father. He would not be called Father if this role didn’t fit His stature!
God the Father is also the Husband of the Church, which means that a father is more than a simple provider, like many believe to be their greatest responsibility.
The father is the alpha of the family. He is in the frontline, which spares the others from problems or dangers, protecting his family with his own life. He also cares, sacrifices himself, and gives himself for his nest! However, for him to fulfill this role, he must first focus on doing all this for his wife, the mother of his children:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it, that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, and that He might present to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish. In this way men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5.25-28
This means that the husband, who loves his wife, gives himself for her so she can sanctify herself and become a woman that is glorious, not having spot, or wrinkle, holy and blameless – a woman that goes beyond her age, appearance, insecurities; this is, a woman who is truly happy.
This is what my father did for my mother, and through her, he became an example of a man, father, and husband for my sister and me.
A happy mother makes a happy family J